Monday, 10 April 2017

Kids Growing Up

Hello!


I have always been told and there for taught how to raise my children (to an extent). Having had Holly my first at the age of 24 (quite young), I learnt how to pretty much raise her from the Internet, blogs, vlogs and Youtube channels (also me mum! she isn't included in this though!).


I learnt about getting them fully weaned and off the bottle by 1 year old so that you don't have issues with their teeth (then I let her sook her finger which will cause worse problems when shes older!). I learnt about the naughty step and glitter jars (nothing wrong with this part. I still use it). I also learnt about routine and had her (and Charlotte) sleeping all through the night by 3 months. Then both of them were into the cot by 4 and 5 months in their own room.


Recently though, after joining the Channel Mum facebook page and seeing all these other mum having problems with their kids sleeping, not eating well and having just general issues, I have came to a conclusion.


My kids are my kids. Holly wont always want to come cuddle at night and she wont always be trying to sneak into my bed. Charlotte wont always be a baby and is already 7 months and just growing up way to fast. I am at work from 5am - 1pm (which to be fair I should be doing just now!). I miss out on a lot of their days and general growing up. I try to minimise this as much as possible, hence starting at 5am when they are all still asleep. But I still miss out on a fair chunk.


If Holly wants to sneak into my bed for cuddles at night, she is more than welcome to. She wont always want to do this (at 15 years old, then we can call it a problem). If I need to miss mopping the floor one week because Charlotte is awake, in a good mood and wants to play and laugh, so what. My house wont always be messy with kids toys. An when that day comes, I am going to feel so empty inside, knowing I didn't play with the kids or concentrate on them as they were growing, because I needed to clean the house in case anyone came round. Don't get me wrong not mopping and cleaning most nights will be hard to deal with at first (OCD much) but I will do it. I want to see my kids grow and I want to spend as much time with them as possible (even if that means getting punched, kicked and slapped all night).


Thanks Internet for teaching me something useful (for a change!)


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9 comments:

  1. I love the internet for reassuring me that I'm doing ok :) #marvmondays

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  2. Our girls are 6 and 9, and both are still sleeping with us at night. And you are right, there will be a time when they won't want a snuggle, a hug, or even the sight fo us. So we take it all in for as long as we can. Rock on mama! #bigpinklink xo

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  3. Cherish every moment because in a flash, they're all grown up. I used to wonder if I would ever get a full night's sleep when my kids were younger and now those days are long gone for me. I do miss the cuddles but they have in turn been replaced by other things - long discussions, long walks together, jokes. There's always something you can hold on to and cherish at any age, you just have to look out for it. I'm sure you are cherishing every moment, because the floors can wait. Thanks for sharing with #bigpinklink

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  4. Yep I'm with you - I spend way too much time focusing on the blog & realised I'm missing out on growing up time! As everyone says, it'll all go by so fast! #bigpinklink

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  5. Wow sounds like you had things really sorted when they were small!! I agree though, I try not to worry about cleaning the house and little things, and not to wish away the times that my little boy really needs me... it won't be long before he's too cool for cuddles with his mum eh?! #ablogginggoodtime

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  6. You are absolutely spot on lovely the housework can wait I have much better things to do! We have to all parent in our own way! Thank you for linking up to #ablogginggoodtime 🎉

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  7. I think you're so right Lisa. The internet is exploding with advice, but I think ultimately we are all just doing what works for ourselves and our familes. Everything is just a phase and everything is only for now. The most important thing is that we enjoy the moments while we can. Thanks for linking to #DreamTeam x

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  8. Sorry if you get two comments from me, the one I left the other day doesn't seem to have gone through?!

    You obviously did well to have yours sleeping brilliantly so early on! I totally agree though, they are young for such a short time and I wouldn't want to miss out on special moments because I was worrying about doing the dusting! #ablogginggoodtime

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